The Real Reason Children (and Adults) Hate Their Stepmothers – Guest Blog

"Put the blame on Mame. That sums up how many of the women with stepchildren I interviewed for my book, Stepmonster, felt about the stepmother role. They told me: "The kids are hostile and rejecting no matter what I do. I know it's not their fault. But it's as if I'm not supposed to have any …

What is ‘Malicious Parent Syndrome’

Divorce and custody proceedings are often high-stress, contentious events that can cause extreme behavior on the part of those involved. Some cases have resulted in situations tied to what was often called "malicious mother syndrome" but is now referred to as "malicious parent syndrome." This syndrome was first theorized by the psychologist Ira Turkat to describe a …

Containing The Storm – Sheltering Children From The Effects of Co-parenting Conflict

Coparenting Tip: Never let your storm get your kids wet.It goes without saying that Coparenting and parenting struggles affect our children... whether we intend for them to or not... We may be doing everything we can to insure that issues don’t have impact on the kids, but they do.Your tone of voice, your body language, …

Co-parenting – It’s Not About Perfect

Co-parenting is a learned art... you're not born with all the knowledge you need to make your co-parenting relationship a successful one. No one is ever fully prepared for all the trials and tribulations that come with co-parenting, let alone a situation that is high conflict. Biological parent or stepparent, it's a learning curve. One …

Improving Coparenting Realistically

I talked to so many amazing stepmoms today going through complex blended family issues, and have been busy following up with those that have reached out, as well as those that are currently seeking advice, information and even counseling! But one conversation stuck out... and there was a statement that was made by a fellow …

Quote Of The Day #4 – On Standards

https://www.instagram.com/p/CCrepBhJp_A/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Today we talk about standards. Part of having standards is communicating those standards with those that you have relationships with, as well as those you coparent with. Initially it may feel like you're giving more information than what is needed. But we have to remember that people aren't aware of who we are, what …

6 Essential Steps to Better Communication

Connecting with people makes us feel good, and communication is a sacred part of that process. We all have a strong need for connectivity and belonging. This is why positive social interactions increase our subjective wellbeing and provide greater life satisfaction (Lyubomirsky, 2008), But often we forget just how much goes into communicating with someone. Like relationships, …

Quote Of The Day #3 – Be The Example

https://www.instagram.com/p/CCoIrlOJmhE/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Today we talk about our children, and the messages that we send through our relationship with our significant other. Have you ever noticed that when things are going good, your children are happier? That's because they're watching you, taking in the positive vibes that you are giving off. When you're going through difficult times …