“Hi wonder if you can share an anonymous post?
Wondering if anyone has experience or opinion on HCBM who’s created social media accounts to lie and berate my partner (her ex). It’s constant lies to ensure she looks like a victim, stories are twisted and one sided and she lies about important things to make him look bad. She’s claiming abuse and we’re disgusted with the behaviour on a public forum where everyone can see- were also in a catch 22 because if we do respond it makes it worse, if we don’t respond it makes it look like she’s right. We can prove a great deal of her post wrong but should we?
Thanks in advance
Mama Bear Blended Family Support:
“Your Post is up!
“Common. This is very common. People in need of venting their frustrations often reach out to social media in order to do so. There is no right or wrong answer for how to deal with this, but I can tell you that if confronting her/them about it has already happened, unfortunately there’s nothing else you can do. Having said that, I have been where you are at, and although it feels like if you aren’t responding against these false allegations, that you’re permitting it – this is not the case. You don’t have control over what she does. She can lie all she wants, but when it comes down to it her words… Let them roll off you. Laugh them off. Vent to someone, anyone,…me! Then leave her be in her sad place working through things in her own way. It boils down to don’t let her get to you. The same happened with me, stalking as well. This very page was accused of being all about her and her being narcissistic (isn’t that very narcissistic? Also why are you looking at it? Lol). What did I decide to do? What was best for me? To stand strong with my blog and my insta page. I decided not to let her get in the way of my healing. I developed both this insta page and my blog (link in bio) in order to share my story and help others as much as they’ve helped me, by understanding. Just don’t let her get to you. People are smart and they can smell bullshit a mile away. Those who know you know the lies are lies. I would let her have her outlet, and maybe create a healthy one for you as well. No berating or slander, just the truth. Your story.“
Nationally 7.5 million people are stalked every year. Approximately 1 in 6 women and 1 in 17 men have experienced stalking in their lifetime. (CDC, 2015)
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