Emotional Abuse

Mama K:

“Hello! I just read your post and it hit home for me. Due to the emotional abuse I’ve developed anxiety and sometimes I feel a little afraid to ask simple questions. How do I ask my ex Narc what is his work schedule? Due to our 50/50 custody agreement and we alternate holidays. I know he’s going to either ignore my question or just tell me that he has plans so that I’m unable to see our daughter. I want to have her with me if he has to work during the holidays instead of being kept away from me and sitting with his parents.”

Mama Bear Blended Family Support:

“I would just outright say that you have plans and would like to have her. If you have 50/50 custody then maybe time should be split. I’m sorry my post triggered you. 💖”

Mama K:

“It’s all good! Reading your posts help❤️ It’s just extremely hard. I understand your post but sometimes it’s like how do you word what you need to say when you have to interact with a Narc?”

Mama Bear Blended Family Support:

Business like. Make sure that you know exactly what you want to say and say it. Eloquently. Try your best to remove your feelings from the situation when dealing with him.”

Mama K:

“Is there some type of support group or therapist that’ll tell you how to deal with talking to a Narc? My hands shake just to send an email”

Mama Bear Blended Family Support:

“If he denies you time or whatever then you’ll be able to document that. I know what it’s like. You’re anxious over the interaction in general. Don’t let him have that power over you.”

Mama K:

“Joint custody, 50/50, alternate holidays… this is his year to have our daughter”

Mama Bear Blended Family Support:

“If it’s his holiday it’s likely he won’t let you have her, and he might not give you his work schedule, but if he’s working there shouldn’t be any reason why she shouldn’t be able to be with you. This may be a holiday you will have to bear through. If he agrees to let you have her that’s awesome, but try not to think too much about what she will be doing on his holiday instead of being with you. These are the hard times. The times where we have to think about our children and how they might want to be with the family as well. Hopefully if he’s working he’d let you have her. Thinking of you!!!”

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