Mama Anna:
“Thoughts when it comes to following the order and alternating holidays?”
Mama Bear Blended Family Support:
“Keep track of everything. Follow the order. If the other party doesn’t then they are in contempt.”
Mama Anna:
“We’re feeling really conflicted. The order gives us thanksgiving on odd years and christmas even years and we’ve tried to split holidays with BM but things have been super high conflict lately and we are thinking that next year we just stick to the order, and not trying to split until SS is old enough to understand and want to be with both of his families for holidays. we feel like that will be most peaceful for everyone but also feel guilty not seeing him for holidays.”
Mama Bear Blended Family Support:
“It sounds like you’ve got a good plan. Venturing off the parenting plan can make things really complicated. Especially if your SS isn’t old enough to make decisions. HCBM is going to keep count of all the times and try to control the situation most likely if you leave it in the air instead of what’s on paper. At least that’s what’s eventually happened to us to get us in the situation we are in. At any point one party can change their mind and then the other party is liable for contempt. Have you tried doing day before or day after? Like one family gets Xmas eve and the other gets Xmas every year?”
Mama Anna:
“Yeah their family usually does Christmas Eve and this is the first year we have the order but we were going to stick to letting them have christmas eve since they don’t celebrate christmas day but they’re not wanting to pick him and and I don’t think we should have to make the effort to take him to them. you’re definitely right about her trying to control things up in the air that’s kinda why we just want to stick to the order after this year.”
Mama Bear Blended Family Support:
“If they want him for the holiday they should have to pick him up.”
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