“Hello there. How do you suggest to I handle HCBM telling SD4 bad things about mine and DH’s new baby (2 months). She denies saying anything even though SD said it to her on the phone (“Mummy didn’t you say that my baby sister has…”). We have told SD to just say to her mum that she must not talk about her baby sister. Were we wrong to do that? There’s no speaking to HCBM because she’s a compulsive liar. Every second weekend when we have SD, there’s a new thing being said. I am losing patience. Please help.”
Mama Bear Blended Family Support:
“I can’t believe that someone would talk about a newborn. But love, that’s jealousy in its finest form. Personally I wouldn’t have made it so messages were relayed by your SD, but I’d have DH say something. I’d also only reply to SD by saying “that’s not very nice, or that’s hurtful” any time she relays any information. This way you’re teaching her what her mother is saying is wrong and mean. My heart goes out to you, I’ve been through a similar experience. Our HCBM talks about everyone in this house, including my SD’s step sister. She’s got SD feeling like the only siblings she has are the ones she created. It’s really sad and pathetic.”
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