The Real Reason Children (and Adults) Hate Their Stepmothers – Guest Blog

"Put the blame on Mame. That sums up how many of the women with stepchildren I interviewed for my book, Stepmonster, felt about the stepmother role. They told me: "The kids are hostile and rejecting no matter what I do. I know it's not their fault. But it's as if I'm not supposed to have any …

Containing The Storm – Sheltering Children From The Effects of Co-parenting Conflict

Coparenting Tip: Never let your storm get your kids wet.It goes without saying that Coparenting and parenting struggles affect our children... whether we intend for them to or not... We may be doing everything we can to insure that issues don’t have impact on the kids, but they do.Your tone of voice, your body language, …

Improving Coparenting Realistically

I talked to so many amazing stepmoms today going through complex blended family issues, and have been busy following up with those that have reached out, as well as those that are currently seeking advice, information and even counseling! But one conversation stuck out... and there was a statement that was made by a fellow …

Quote Of The Day #4 – On Standards

https://www.instagram.com/p/CCrepBhJp_A/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Today we talk about standards. Part of having standards is communicating those standards with those that you have relationships with, as well as those you coparent with. Initially it may feel like you're giving more information than what is needed. But we have to remember that people aren't aware of who we are, what …

Quote Of The Day #3 – Be The Example

https://www.instagram.com/p/CCoIrlOJmhE/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Today we talk about our children, and the messages that we send through our relationship with our significant other. Have you ever noticed that when things are going good, your children are happier? That's because they're watching you, taking in the positive vibes that you are giving off. When you're going through difficult times …

Keeping Your Word

We are all guilty of this from time to time… we say we’ll do something and then life gets complicated and we get busy. Some things fall through the cracks.Whether it’s with kids, friends, family, or coparenting… stay consistent. Be present.Don’t make a habit out of things being left said and not done. This pattern …

Be kind

Photo by Lisa Fotios on Pexels.com Be good to people for no reason. There’s a difference between boundaries and expectations. Know when you’re needed. Sometimes just being kind and going out of your way for the other person is what is really needed.That may mean you need to sacrifice. It may mean that what you …

Step-Parenting Teenagers – Why This Stepmom Has Taken A Major Step Back

When I first became a stepmom, the kids were 5 and 5. Our girls had known each other, and DH and I had been friends since the first six months of SD's life. Our girls are five months apart. I'll never forget when we first started dating. They were sweet, interested and excited about this …