The Real Reason Children (and Adults) Hate Their Stepmothers – Guest Blog

"Put the blame on Mame. That sums up how many of the women with stepchildren I interviewed for my book, Stepmonster, felt about the stepmother role. They told me: "The kids are hostile and rejecting no matter what I do. I know it's not their fault. But it's as if I'm not supposed to have any …

Improving Coparenting Realistically

I talked to so many amazing stepmoms today going through complex blended family issues, and have been busy following up with those that have reached out, as well as those that are currently seeking advice, information and even counseling! But one conversation stuck out... and there was a statement that was made by a fellow …

Quote Of The Day #3 – Be The Example

https://www.instagram.com/p/CCoIrlOJmhE/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Today we talk about our children, and the messages that we send through our relationship with our significant other. Have you ever noticed that when things are going good, your children are happier? That's because they're watching you, taking in the positive vibes that you are giving off. When you're going through difficult times …

Keeping Your Word

We are all guilty of this from time to time… we say we’ll do something and then life gets complicated and we get busy. Some things fall through the cracks.Whether it’s with kids, friends, family, or coparenting… stay consistent. Be present.Don’t make a habit out of things being left said and not done. This pattern …

Be kind

Photo by Lisa Fotios on Pexels.com Be good to people for no reason. There’s a difference between boundaries and expectations. Know when you’re needed. Sometimes just being kind and going out of your way for the other person is what is really needed.That may mean you need to sacrifice. It may mean that what you …

Disengaging Stepmoms: Signs It’s Time To Step Back

It's no news that every blended family not only looks different, but functions different. Dynamics between one blended family and another can be great. Parenting isn't a one-size-fits-all, and what may work for your family in the beginning may not work out the entire time you are raising your children. Just like our children change …

Step-Parenting Teenagers – Why This Stepmom Has Taken A Major Step Back

When I first became a stepmom, the kids were 5 and 5. Our girls had known each other, and DH and I had been friends since the first six months of SD's life. Our girls are five months apart. I'll never forget when we first started dating. They were sweet, interested and excited about this …

Self-Care Is Not Selfish

“It’s backed by science and not just feel good self indulgent sentiments” (Lee, K., 2019) In the age of anxiety, where burnout is the new normal, self-care shouldn't be considered optional. Science reveals it's critical nature as something we should be devoting ourselves to, for ourselves. "Self-care is a regular, intentional process of devoting oneself …

Take A Drive Instead – A Peaceful Protest

RENEE JONES SCHNEIDER – STAR TRIBUNE Protesters walked along Washington Avenue during a Black Lives Matter rally on April 29, 2015, in Minneapolis. For the last few days, we have been reading and discussing the movement sweeping the country in our house and with family. Like many others, we are attempting to stay up to …