The Real Reason Children (and Adults) Hate Their Stepmothers – Guest Blog

"Put the blame on Mame. That sums up how many of the women with stepchildren I interviewed for my book, Stepmonster, felt about the stepmother role. They told me: "The kids are hostile and rejecting no matter what I do. I know it's not their fault. But it's as if I'm not supposed to have any …

Containing The Storm – Sheltering Children From The Effects of Co-parenting Conflict

Coparenting Tip: Never let your storm get your kids wet.It goes without saying that Coparenting and parenting struggles affect our children... whether we intend for them to or not... We may be doing everything we can to insure that issues don’t have impact on the kids, but they do.Your tone of voice, your body language, …

Improving Coparenting Realistically

I talked to so many amazing stepmoms today going through complex blended family issues, and have been busy following up with those that have reached out, as well as those that are currently seeking advice, information and even counseling! But one conversation stuck out... and there was a statement that was made by a fellow …

Quote Of The Day #4 – On Standards

https://www.instagram.com/p/CCrepBhJp_A/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Today we talk about standards. Part of having standards is communicating those standards with those that you have relationships with, as well as those you coparent with. Initially it may feel like you're giving more information than what is needed. But we have to remember that people aren't aware of who we are, what …

6 Essential Steps to Better Communication

Connecting with people makes us feel good, and communication is a sacred part of that process. We all have a strong need for connectivity and belonging. This is why positive social interactions increase our subjective wellbeing and provide greater life satisfaction (Lyubomirsky, 2008), But often we forget just how much goes into communicating with someone. Like relationships, …

Keeping Your Word

We are all guilty of this from time to time… we say we’ll do something and then life gets complicated and we get busy. Some things fall through the cracks.Whether it’s with kids, friends, family, or coparenting… stay consistent. Be present.Don’t make a habit out of things being left said and not done. This pattern …

Setting New Boundaries In Old Relationships

I talked to a fellow mama bear this morning, who was finding her way through self discovery, and rebuilding her self esteem after a rocky parting-of-ways between her family and her mother. I listened and nodded my head, scooting farther and farther toward the edge of my seat, sharpening my focus on the journey this …

Codependency: An Inside Look At Unhealthy Blended Family Relationships

"Codependency can be defined as any relationship in which two people become so invested in each other that they can't function independently anymore," Dr. Becker says. "Your mood, happiness, and identity are defined by the other person. In a codependent relationship, there is usually one person who is more passive and can't make decisions for …

Disengaging Stepmoms: Signs It’s Time To Step Back

It's no news that every blended family not only looks different, but functions different. Dynamics between one blended family and another can be great. Parenting isn't a one-size-fits-all, and what may work for your family in the beginning may not work out the entire time you are raising your children. Just like our children change …